Tuesday, January 21, 2014

Ok, Panic/Fear is Subsiding. What's Next?


So, it's been hours, days or even a few weeks since you were told  you have cancer. As many of us have experienced before, maybe you've felt panic or intense sadness and fear. Because of the healing benefits of time, maybe the panic/fear has started to subside a little. What's next? What do you do now?
What are the next steps? Are there any steps? Is there a proper and/or correct way to try and begin dealing with this THING that has entered your world and looks inconceivable and massive? Of course, the doctors can schedule us for additional tests, surgery and maybe even treatments. The question I posing though is what can we ( the person with the cancer) do? Of course, I'm assuming you are well enough to take action. Maybe that's not the case.  I can only write and talk from my experience. I've been told three different times in my life I had cancer. Hopefully, I won't have to be informed a fourth time. However, if I am, I feel much much more prepared to start taking action right away. I'm spending time on this point (actually this is the underlying message of this book) because its just my personal belief the actions I take on my own to rid myself of cancer could be the most effective and powerful part of the whole healing process. How do I know that? I don't. I can't verify it. I have no proof whatsoever. It's a hunch. My gut tells me it is so. That's enough for me. I don't need confirmation by others. Knowing there are simple common sense steps I can take on a daily basis gives me a feeling that I'm "in the game" fighting. Psychologically, it keeps me up and motivated. I'm able to remain positive more easily. I don't want to have the feeling that I've turned it all over to the "professionals" and God and that's it. I've watched many do that. Some survived. Many didn't. Even if I hadn't survived, at least I could've died knowing that I was right in there doing everything I could toattempt to alter the outcome.

I guess I've viewed my body as kind of a machine. Parts wear out. What kind of fuel (food and drink) do you put in "the machine?" Cleaning burning fuel? Junk? Be honest. Just take a look. Don't beat yourself up about what you see. Well, that was easy to say. Go ahead. Beat yourself up. Feel bad for an hour or two.  Just go through it and then let it go. Feeling bad about yourself, feeling guilty about your past isn't going to fix the present moment's situation.

Do you drink alcohol? If yes, what do you think? Do ya think maybe you should cool it for a while?

Do you smoke? If so, do you think that habit is going to help get you through this? I'm not here to preach or judge. Do your homework. I researched already. I couldn't find anywhere a recommendation to drink alcohol or smoke tobacco to beat cancer.

Now it might be incredibly difficult to break some of these lifestyle habits. I understand. Is it worth it? Do you want to live longer if it means you might have to make some serious adjustments in what you've been putting in your body? That's a personal question we all have to ask and answer ourselves.

I'm talking about slowly over the course of a few days, taking a look at your life. Start a process to overhaul the "operating system" we call our body. For example, how much water do you usually drink a day? Be honest. One maybe two glasses? Maybe more? Drinking good clean healthy water is one of the very best ways we can begin immediately to flush the system. Cleansing. Begin a "clearing out" process. Start with water. I think I was told back in school the human body is over 80% water. Is that right? Ok. There ya go.

What about sleep? How much do you usually sleep? Recently, I talked with a successful businessman. He kind of seemed proud to tell me he only sleeps 3-4 hours a night. I think some people can do that for a while. Maybe they can do it for a few decades. I wonder if there's a price for not sleeping much? I know from experience when my body has active cancerous tumors, my body needs more rest. Actually, my body cries for that rest. It's during those sleeping hours my body has a chance to try and repair itself. Don't believe it? Research the real purpose of melatonin in the body. Melatonin will only circulate in the body to kill cancer cells when we are sleeping in darkness. I heard recently, the body and melatonin can be tricked by local cellphone and wi-fi signals. So, even if I'm sleeping before midnight, a nearby wi-fi signal makes the body think it's still daylight. Therefore, no melatonin is released to repair damaged cells which accumulated in my body the previous day.

Does this seem to tough so far? Too difficult? No alcohol?  No smoking? Drinking plenty of water? Getting lots of sleep? Too hard?

Just one question...how much do you want to beat cancer?

Thursday, December 26, 2013

Free Download

Happy Holidays everyone! Some people ask me about the charge($) for this ebook. It's a free download at this site (http://neilstalnaker.com/wp-content/uploads/2013/12/Cancer-Book.pdf ). I have it as a download at another site with Paypal attached, also. The price is $00.01. Yes, 1 cent. If you want to donate and/or buy music that's fine too. If you go to this site to buy my music (http://www.neilstalnaker.bandcamp.com(which is also a "pay whatever you feel" situation and many have downloaded for free - which is fine), you get the ebook as a free PDF file download when you download the music files. Yeah, I have ongoing medical expenses. I'm on the subway now on my way to a treatment. But, point is, I'm not trying to make any money from this stuff. Just want to get the word out to some people that might possibly need it. In this day and time, an independent musician like myself is not going to make much money from selling CDs and/or downloads. My main goal was/is to compose/record music about my life experience cause its therapy for me. When i get a project finished and post it, its not for self-promotion. Its just a verification to myself that i finished something i started. I'm not planning any LIVE performances anyway. So I'm not trying to build the proverbial fan base. My other goal is to get the music into film. It's moving nicely in that direction. Hope there's not a negative vibe in this message. I just wanna be clear and real.

Love to all of you. 


Tuesday, December 24, 2013

The First 48 Hours

I remember clearly in 1991 sitting in the doctor's office having stitches removed. The pathology report came in over the fax machine. The doctor was in shock. My wife almost passed out. I just felt numb. Had no experience in my life up to that point to condition my response for that news. Left there and went across town (Baltimore) to meet with a team of doctors. I guess at a point in that meeting the numbness started to wear off. I remember in the evening as we drove on the interstate back to W.Va. I started to have a feeling of being boxed-in. Trapped. I felt like squirming in my seat, restless, while I was trying to drive. Just couldn't make it home that night. We stayed in a hotel and made a few calls to family members. The boxed-in feeling became more intense that night. I started to panic. I felt fear. Couldn't sleep. A relatively healthy mind trapped inside of a sick body. A dying body. I couldn't figure out how to escape. 

Over the next 2 days, I cried a lot. I felt like maybe death was seriously confronting me. My overwhelming feeling besides the sheer panic and terror was a profound and deep sadness centered around the thought of being away from my kids.

At some point in those first 48 hours, a calmness swept over me. Of course, I was praying a lot. The thought came to me that this wasn't a death sentence. Maybe the change happened when I let myself completely experience the panic, terror and sadness. Those things eventually lost their power and control over me. Then I knew I could fight this. As long as I continued to resist the situation I was in, the feeling of panic continued. What's the saying? "What we resist persists."

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